Honestly, at this rate, I could start an entire series just documenting the ridiculous things men do or say while dating. But what tops it for me is this: you meet me, act like you’re genuinely interested, insist on taking my number (which, by the way, isn’t easy to get because I value my peace and don’t hand it out to just anyone), then tell me we should do something and promise to call or text to make plans.
But guess what happens? Nothing. Days, weeks, sometimes even months later, you pop back up asking, “What happened?” or “Why didn’t we ever make plans?” or my personal favorite, “Why didn’t I hear from you?”
Call me old-school if you want, but I actually expect that if you asked for my number and said you’d make plans, you’d follow through and make plans. I’m not about to chase you down or be the one doing all the work when you were the one who claimed you were interested in the first place.
And here’s the thing: if you’re not actually interested, that’s perfectly fine. But don’t waste my time chatting me up, keeping me from connecting with someone genuine, taking my number and never using it, then somehow expecting me to call you or chase you around. I’d rather be left alone than dragged into that nonsense.
If I wanted to get to know you and I took your number, I’d do the decent thing and follow through the whole way. So why is it too much to expect the same in return?
Dealing with this half-hearted behavior is exhausting. Until someone shows up with the maturity and respect to back up their words with real action, I’ll keep my peace and my number.
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