One of the hardest but most freeing lessons I’ve learned is this: People do what they want to do. The rest is just excuses.
On my birthday, one of the first gifts I received came all the way from Canada, from my best friend. It arrived right at my doorstep. I was surprised, even emotional. She didn’t let distance, timing, or convenience stop her from showing she cared.
That same day, others told me, “Oh, I forgot,” or “If only you were in town,” or “I was going to, but...” and that’s when it hit me again.
If someone truly wants to show up for you, they will.
They won’t need reminders, ideal conditions, or perfect timing. They’ll find a way.
I’ve applied this truth to both friendships and romantic relationships. It’s become a filter for me, simple, clear, and powerful.
When people care, they come through.
When they don’t, they explain why they couldn’t.
Let that guide you. Pay attention to actions, not intentions.
Because if they wanted to, they would.
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